Employees don't leave enterprises; they leave bosses. This statement is partially true because we as experts have encountered toxic managers who have made work culture uncomfortable to the point of incompetence.
You join an organization that has high hopes and big plans for growth. You're all excited to learn from your boss and work in a team environment. However, you quickly discover that your manager is not what you expected. It's unfortunate that you've found yourself in this situation, but leaving or quitting right away is not an option you should pursue.
So, how should you approach a complex manager? We have several options for you.
1. Take a Step Back & Observe:
The first step is to re-evaluate the situation objectively. There is a possibility that your manager was rude or insulted you in a single instance, which is unusual for him. It's possible that your manager misplaced it due to a high-pressure situation or an impending deadline. Perhaps this is just a form of negative reinforcement designed to help you grow. It's best to take a step back and assess the situation as a whole. If this is a passing phase, put your mind at ease and return to work. However, if this is a recurring trait, you must take corrective action.
2. A Direct Conversation:
You should have an exchange of information with your manager before escalating it to higher authorities. Nobody knows a manager-employee relationship like the manager and the employee. So schedule a meeting with your boss to discuss your professional requirements and how they can be met in a harmonious environment. You can now take a more direct approach and share the issues you are currently experiencing. Make a point of having a two-way conversation without directly blaming or confronting the manager. Also, try to bring to their attention the specific events that made you feel uneasy in order to assist your manager in evaluating and presenting their perspective on the situation.
3. Speak With People Who Can Assist You:
If even a direct conversation with the manager is ineffective, the best and final option is to speak with someone in the organization who can assist. Bring the entire situation to the attention of top management or the HR team and allow them to take the necessary action. Make it a point to request that your identity be kept private. These parties will either target and correct the toxic manager or change your team, allowing you to prosper and grow while remaining in the same company.
However, if all of the preceding steps are ineffective, it is preferable to leave the company. Giving your time and efforts to an organization that does not value your efforts and needs is unreasonable. Every employee deserves a warm and friendly work environment, and if it isn't working out after several actions, it's better to look for other opportunities and move on.